Older loss Every day Sands receives calls from parents who experienced the death of their baby many years (and sometimes decades) ago. Many of these parents did not have the opportunity to see, hold, or make memories with their baby. Some have not begun to grieve their loss until many years later. This can be a confronting, confusing and isolating time. If this is your experience, be reassured that you are not alone. Sands can provide you with support no matter how long ago your baby died. We can also provide practical assistance in navigating hospital or cemetery records to help you find out what may have happened to your baby after they died and where their remains may be located. A good first step is to get in touch with Sands and start the conversation with someone who understands.